So you’re getting married. Your thought process is probably something like this: “Oh-my-god-I’m-engaged-oh-my-god-I-can’t-believe-it-oh-my-god-I-can’t-plan-a-wedding-by-myself-where-are-my-ladies/gents-they’ll-tell-me-it’s-okay-right?”
Okay, so maybe you’re a little more put together than I was. Whatever. Go organize your perfect wedding without a drop of sweat (or a tear). You have skills of which the rest of us can only dream.
The rest of you, over here.
As I was saying, the thought of a wonderful big celebration is turns from exciting and lovely to frighteningly overwhelming quite quickly. And how do you survive the stress? You treat your support group WELL. I don’t mean you have to buy them each a car and put them up in a 5-star hotel and feed them bonbons. I mean really, seriously appreciate them for the moral and physical support they’ll provide for you.
We certainly didn’t think of everything in our wedding-planning haze, but we really wanted to cover our bases with our amazing buddies, so what follows is a checklist of bridal party things to consider. Because we came up with a LOT of considerations, it will be presented in parts, complete with pictures (usually).
Part I: In Which We Try To Avoid Texting the Request to Join Our Bridal Party
Invite them to share in the craziness/planning/love with care. Show them how much they matter. I called my best friends the second after he proposed, so they had a pretty good idea of their candidacy, but I still wanted to make it special. Instead of texting the ladies (I can’t believe I’ve heard true stories about that), I sewed and beaded a little felt bird (pre-Lint and Lavender – fitting, huh?), stuffed it with a drop of fragrance, and sent it with a note requesting their presence and assistance with the crazy party. Wish I had a picture, but I was obviously not thinking clearly at that point in the journey! Apologies! In its place is a picture of the best idea for a calendar I’ve ever seen. Seems like it would have been a wonderful way to catalog my emotions leading up to the monster shindig. Certainly would have garnered lots of laughs in a few years, I’m sure. More “Ladies and Gents of Infinite Wisdom” to come soon.